In this selfie generation, it’s pretty obvious that a lot of women will do just about anything to get attention, especially male attention. Unfortunately, doing anything doesn’t always extend to the things that you really want to do. Leading a guy on is just another act in the line of fishing for compliments that’s all some women do these days. So, when you’re chatting her up at the bar, how can you tell if she’s into you or into the attention you’re giving her?
Find Out Her Reputation
Women who lead people on are definitely going to have a reputation. Women who are easy have even bigger ones. Don’t wait to find out what she’s going to be at the end of the night; if you’re at a house party or similar event, you’ll be able to find someone who knows her. The grape vine is likely to blow things out of proportion, but all’s fair in love and war. Get the dirt and make things easier on yourself.
What’s her Body Language Saying?
Watch her smile closely. It’s easy to fake the brilliant smile of the flirter, but when someone’s really into you their pupils dilate. Even in a dimly lit bar room, if her eyes are the size of saucers she’s into you. Watch her posture. If she wants to make you think that she’s into you she’ll touch you and then retreat. Put her hand on your arm and then cross her arms so that you won’t have an opportunity to return the action. She’ll give you just enough to keep you on her hook, but you won’t get anywhere. If you’re still spinning your wheels after a solid hour of trying to put the moves on her, she has no intention of ever letting you go. If there’s no progress, you’ve got to move on.
If you want to know for sure whether she’s after any male attention or your male attention, excuse yourself for a few minutes. If you’ve got a wingman, have him step in and talk to her. A little light flirting, but nothing major. (You have to be able to trust this guy for this to work.) If she lights up like a Christmas light over him like she did for you, sorry, buddy. She’s only after the attention. If she’s polite and interested, it doesn’t spell doom. If she transfers her attention back to you when you return, she’s really after you and you can relax for the evening.
Women are attention seeking machines. If you want to actually get somewhere with your night out, you had better be careful who you give it to. Make a wrong investment, and you’re going to end the night alone and unappreciated. Make good choices, and you can look forward to a great night with a woman who actually cares about going home with you: not just the only guy in the place who looks her way. You can do better than that.