There’s a delicate balance between sounding douchey and sounding sincere when you’re trying to tell a woman you want to have sex with her. When you’re DTF (down to fuck) you don’t want to confuse her by letting her think that you’re ready to jump into this big relationship and make real life babies. There are two main ways to do this:
The Jerk Way
If you really just don’t care about this chick and sincerely only want to bang her once then go ahead and say that…but it probably won’t work. She’s not going to want to be treated like a piece of meat. That’s when you’re cunning has to come into play. Make the future plans with her, tell her about all of the dates you two will go on, and then gain her trust. When she trusts you she’s going to be far more likely to put out. Once you’ve gotten this girl to believe that you’re in it for the long haul then make the move. Even if it’s still really early on in the relationship she’s far more likely to put out and is okay with you wanting sex since you’ll be together. Except that’s where she’s wrong. There’s nothing legally holding you to this woman after you have sex. So once you hit it then walk away. Well, not right after. But you never have to call her again or anything.
The Nice Way
These sound really judgmental, but that’s because they’re extreme opposites and one is self-serving. This second option is a lot less. If you’re not super crazy about this woman but still don’t want to be an asshole about the whole sex thing, then let her know that you’re down for at least a playful relationship attached to the sex. Then you have to follow through with it. Invite her over for sleepovers (hint: sex) but also make her breakfast the next day. That sort of stuff lets her know that you are definitely down to have sex from the get go, but also that you’re not diving head first into a hardcore relationship. Beware: she may want to pressure you into taking everything a step further and becoming her legit boyfriend. This is where you get to be extremely clear that you are not into anything like that. You like the simple thing that you’ve got going on and enjoy your dates. You can, at this point, say that you’re mostly into this for the physical relationship as well as hanging out. But you want to stay friends with benefits. Everyone knows that that phrase means so there’s really no confusing it with anything else. If she isn’t down for that, well then you’ve already got what you wanted so it might be time to move on. Conversely, you might not want to let her go. You’ve got to drop the anchor in that case and get your boyfriend material ready.