When To Call Her To Set Up The Date Without Looking Desperate
When you start jumping into the world of adult online dating, it might seem daunting at first to figure out when to time that first phone call perfectly. That being said, it shouldn’t be all that intimidating when you consider that it should all be part of your hookup tactics, and therefore, something you’ve considered from the get go.
A phone call can make or break your deal.
The thing about calling her is that you want to make sure that you never sound desperate. A lot of guys agonize over this, and trust us, we have, too. That being said, it’s easier than you’d think to just give her a ring and talk casually to her about meeting up.
It’s all in the language that you use. Rather than begging and pleading for her to hookup with you that night, you need to really act as if it doesn’t matter to you whether you meet with her that night or not. A typical conversation should really encompass the fact that you’d love to meet up with her, but if she can’t, that’s fine, too.
Begging her to meet up with you should be on your list of topics to avoid. She’s not going to appreciate it, and it’s not going to make her meet up with you any faster. It’s just going to annoy her by the end of the phone call, so stick to being casual, and you’re going to end up with much better chances of going out and meeting her for a hookup in the first place.
You have to use your judgement.
It honestly all comes down to the kind of girl that you’re trying to hookup with. Some of these ladies have been around the block, and really are used to having guys want to call them right away. Other women might not be as used to the hookup process, and might eagerly jump for the chance to hear a phone call from a guy.
It’s really just going to have to be your judgement when it comes to thinks like this. While you might find yourself with one type of woman for one date, it might be entirely different the next time. Gauge her responses, and proceed accordingly.
Every woman is different.
Even the popular ladies might want a phone call right away. They might want to know that you’re really serious and actually into them, and don’t want to have their time wasted by a guy that can’t even chat with them over the phone.
Other women might not want you to call them until the night of the hookup, and expect everything else to be set up over the internet. This is entirely valid, and something you should respect. That being said, still request her phone number and the right to send her texts. Even if she wants to keep your voices secret, it’s not like you can’t be out of touch for her for the night of your meet up.
Figure out the timeline she’s on.
If she wants to hookup sooner rather than later, then try and call her sooner rather than later. That’s going to let her know that you’re as into her as she is into you, and it’s going to make things go much more smoothly for both of you.
The main thing is that you both need to be on the same page. If she starts pulling back when you start mentioning phone calls, then don’t do it just yet. You don’t want to scare her off by being too pushy, and you don’t want to sound like you’re in desperate need of meeting up with her.
Don’t rush it.
Again, you don’t want to sound desperate. Women can tell if you’re desperate from a mile away, and so if you just take your time, you will eventually get way more out of it than you would have if you rushed the whole process. It’s up to you to judge it, of course, but take your time for the most part and just have fun.