If you want to have success with a lady tonight, don’t take her to the nicest place in the city. If you’re looking to get with her for one night you want to take her to a place that’s no better than average. In fact, even a place that’s a little bit mediocre will do the trick way better than the nicest restaurant in town. Here is why the best way to have a one night stand is to take her to that sleazy corner bar.
What a Nice Restaurant Says About You
When you’re taking her to the nicest place in town, you’re not sending her the signal that you intend. You want to wow her, dazzle her right out of that gorgeous dress she’s wearing. Unfortunately, taking her out says that you’re really, really interested in her. Not for the night, but as a long term conquest. It also says that you have the resources that she’s more than likely looking for. If you dress up, show her the full package: looks, resources, and the kind of attention that all women crave, she’s going to start thinking of you as boyfriend material.
When She Wants You Long Term
Women who want boyfriends aren’t going to go for one night stands. The classic move to keep a guy around is to resist having sex. If she decides that she wants a boyfriend, she’s not going to have sex with you. You’re going to impress her so much that she’s going to keep her pants firmly on her body, instead of the other way around. This is the death cry for anything casual you might have had.
The Perfect Place to Take Her
Obviously, you don’t want to take her to somewhere so terrible that she’s going to run away. You want her to stay, have a few drinks, and decide that you’re good enough for one night. So cross off all the really gross places you might know about. You want to lower her expectations without actually scaring her off.
You want to take her somewhere with a fun atmosphere. An active bar with a lot of singles hooking up and having fun will lend itself well to your purposes. Monkey see, monkey do. Show her hot couples who are connecting at the bar, and she’ll feel the pressure to go along with it too. Don’t keep her out until last call, either. You want to get her freshly tipsy and then make your play; wait too long, and she’ll have spent all night cementing her reasons not to go home with you. When you’re having a great time at the bar, ask her back to your place. She won’t be expecting it, and will be all the more likely to say yes to the big question.
The trick to one night stands is never making yourself look too much like a keeper. Take her somewhere fun and lively, but not overly impressive, and you up your chances that she’ll be into a wild night and no breakfast the next morning.