The sexy librarian stereotype is around for a reason. Hot women in pencil skirts and glasses who will punish you for misbehaving touches down on at least three fetishes and isn’t totally unattainable. But these are real women that require real skill to get. The next time you’re spending more time checking out the librarian than the books try these strategies to get her info.
The first step to working your magic on any woman is to get a conversation going. She’s not going to want the classic librarian stalker, so put yourself out there and start a pleasant and totally not sexual conversation with her. Talk about the books you’re checking out, the weather, upcoming events, or anything like that.
Learn Her Name
When you’re leaving after checking out your books see if you can find a card or nametag on her that will give you a clue to her name. If you don’t see one there will probably be a receipt that has her name on it. Worse comes to worse, just ask her. This will be less smooth than just reading it but at least you’ll know. Now you can make your conversations more personal and it’s actually a proven fact that using her name will put you ahead. Once we learn our own name it becomes our favorite word and we have positive brain reactions when we hear it.
Make Her Feel Important
Now that you’ve gotten to know her a bit it’s time to get even closer. Start asking her for recommendations on books. She’ll probably throw out something similar to what you’ve been reading, so make sure that you tell her you want something you wouldn’t think to pick. Being a librarian she’ll be well versed in literature and you should make sure to take whatever she recommends. Now actually read it. You’ll have more conversation material and a chance to get to know her through what she reads. Books can be extremely intimate. Reading this can give you a huge insight and help you fine tune your strategy when you approach her next.
Bridge the Gap
You’re almost ready to seriously make a move. It’s been weeks or months since you’ve started this dance, but don’t lose patience now. Seeing her often and talking to her will get her familiar with you and memorable. The best way to take this relationship out of her workplace and into your bedroom is to take her to a midway point. Local events like plays, art galleries, or concerts are excellent public places that you can take her. Oh no, you “accidentally” bought an “extra” ticket to (event here)? You’d better ask her to accompany you. She might be a little reluctant, but leave it on her desk with your number on the back. Not putting pressure on her and letting her call you later puts the decision and time in her hands. This makes her more likely to actually call you and solidify the plans.