A lot of dating tips seem to assume that all guys are naturally charming and smooth. The truth is that everyone, even the most experienced, gets nervous at some point or other. What sets them apart from the others, so that nobody notices, is their ability to simply cover it up and turn it to their favor. Yes, nervousness can be beneficial if it’s controlled. You’re high on adrenaline, are more alert and dare more, if you channel it right. As scary as it sounds, if you don’t, your date will notice and it will make her nervous in turn. So that your date runs smoothly, here are three tips to motivate and encourage you.
Pep Talk Done Right
Confidence is the key ingredient. You don’t have to be able to make flirty and witty comebacks when you’re joking to show off how you can sugarcoat words. If that’s not you, that’s absolutely fine. You’re trying to see if you fit with your date, not a personality you pulled up to hide behind. Nervousness often comes from the feeling of not being good enough. But if you aren’t good enough for her, then she wouldn’t have agreed to a date at all – it’s not charity, but genuine interest. You’re already past the initial barrier of drawing her interest. Now she’s curious about what other things you bring to the table.
Putting a Stop to the Tell-Tale Signs of Nervousness
Clammy hands and spots of sweat are the most common signs of nervousness and don’t help you relax in the least. Thankfully, there are some tricks to solve these problems. What’s most important when you have trouble with sweat is that you use deodorant that isn’t aimed at making you smell better, but an antiperspirant, which are available in drug stores. Avoid tight fitting and synthetic materials as well. If the antiperspirant is scent-free, you can also apply it to your hands. Otherwise, you can also use baby powder (which works in every other area as well). Also keep napkins in both of your pockets. That way, you can simply dry off your hands without drawing attention to yourself.