No matter if you’re heading out to get lucky or if you found someone online and want to meet them for a night, one night stands can deliver you the best sex of your life. Because all the involved parties aren’t hell-bent on making themselves look like the best relationship material, it’s more relaxed and less restrained. You can ask a one nighter if they’d like to try some light bondage. If they do it’s great, if they don’t, well you won’t be seeing them again anyway, so there’s nothing to lose. Life isn’t a cheesy romantic comedy movie. The bad news is things can go wrong, things cannot work in your favor and it’s a bit of a gamble sometimes. The good news is that you can raise your own chances.
Get the Location Right
There are some places where the chances for landing a one nighter are much higher than anywhere else. Business parties and dinner events aren’t among them. It’s not impossible to land one, but they make for a difficult atmosphere to get your target in the right mood. Places that are more preferable over these two are of course clubs, beaches and bars, especially if there’s something for a group of women to celebrate – birthdays, marriages and engagements most of all. If you’re planning on meeting someone you’ve gotten to know online, then make sure to suggest one of these more laid back locations. The best are those where you have reasons to touch them without coming off creepy or desperate.
The Right Signals
On the topic of touching, there’s a very fine line between being a grabby desperate guy and a charming man who wants to flirt with the silent promise of more. How much a person accepts touches differs not only between cultures, but from person to person as well. This is why you shouldn’t get right down to business. Watch for cues and hints that indicate that she’s interested in you and doesn’t mind you invading her personal space. Smiles, eye contact and an open body language, or even touches, are good news and mean that you can go a step further. On your side, you can give off the same signals. When it comes down to touches, play on the safe side at least until you’re sure that you’re not being intrusive. Something that works quite often to check is to bring something to her attention, like hair tangled in her jewelry, and ask if you may bring it back in order. If she lets you, then you’ve done something right.
Always Be Prepared
One night stands have the potential to happen anytime and anywhere, when you play your cards right. So it would be a shame if you found yourself smelling of old sweat or worse, having no condom. Small things like that can make all the difference. By making sure that you’re neat and think ahead, you’re also projecting this positive image to everyone, raising your chances even further.