Messaging women on dating sites in hopes of getting a one-nighter or a date may seem like a daunting process, but all it takes is a little patience and an open mind. It may not happen as quickly as you would like, but if you show her that you’re a trustworthy person and keep her interest over a span of time, your chances of getting a hook-up increase greatly. After all, most women are less likely to want to meet up with a complete stranger after exchanging just a few messages. You need to be ready to be in for the long haul, if necessary.
It’s important to remember that the women you’re trying to keep in contact with may not be checking the site with the same frequency that you do. Just like you would do with texts or phone calls, be patient when waiting for responses instead of assuming the worst. Some women may take a few days to respond to messages, but after that period of time it should be safe for you to send a message again and see if she simply forgot about your message. Sending a message too early (within a couple hours or a single day of her last response and your message) can make you come off as impatient, and it can easily send a woman packing before you even get a chance to meet her.
Don’t Stress it
You may want to meet up in person quickly, especially if you’re just looking for a
one-night stand, but you need to be careful about approaching the topic with the woman you have been messaging. If you broach the subject too early, she may write you off completely and stop responding to your messages. Give it a few messages before you start mentioning meeting up for a date or a fling – just enough time for the pleasantries and getting to know each other a little bit. If you mention meeting up and she ignores your offer or outright rejects it, don’t stress about it and certainly don’t lose hope. You can either cut your losses and move on to another woman, or you can keep messaging the same woman and just give it a bit more time. After all, you need to give her time to realize that you’re worth meeting up with, unlike your competitors.
Choosing the Place
Once you have gotten a woman to agree to meet up with you, you should always
give her the chance to pick your location. After all, you want her to be comfortable for when you meet up for your date or one-night stand. If she’s nervous about the location you picked without asking, she may get cold feet. Tell her that you’d love to see where she has in mind for your date or fling, and if she can’t come up with anything, then you can pick a place. Public locations are obviously the best for a first encounter, for your safety and for hers.