Most men actually have more than one goal when it comes to their sex life. There’s the one night stand side, the kinky side, and the side that definitely wants to play the field but, you know, if the perfect supermodel came along he wouldn’t say no to being with her. It’s hard to convey all of that in one profile. Add in too much detail about one, and you can’t keep the others straight. Your kink will drive off vanilla girls you’d have been fine spending a vanilla night with, and girls who want commitment won’t understand when you decide that they’re really more one night stand territory. There’s one simple solution: separate your desires into three different profiles.
1. The Vanilla Hookup Profile
This should be the easiest profile to set up. You’re hot, single, and ready to mingle. Keep things simple here. You’re after hot women to spend one night and maybe a booty call with. You’re flexible with what she wants to do, but don’t mention any specific kinks or fetishes. Keep this profile open and clean. If you want to have the best results, be honest about what you want. It will make you seem like less of a player. Women want to have casual sex too, but they don’t want to feel used or tricked. You’d be surprised how many women respond positively to a guy who’s open about his desires.
2. The Kinky Profile
If you’ve got more than one fetish, you might need to have different profiles for them. If there’s not a lot of overlap, chances are good that it’s pretty rare to have both fetishes. Split them up. If your fetishes go together like bondage and humiliation, though, keep them in one. You want to showcase yourself as a kink enthusiast. Overlap will make you look better, but a strange mix of kinks will scare off women who are only into one or the other.
This profile should be dedicated to only finding you fetish sex. Don’t mention vanilla in it. Prioritize and bring in the ladies who are interested in your kinks and extras. Be as bold as you want to be in this profile, because you already have a different one to hook the vanillas.
3. The Dream Girl Profile
Odds are you’re not going to meet your kinky, gorgeous, fantastic dream girl on a dating site. But why not try it? If anything, this profile gives you a chance to work out what you have to offer a woman that doesn’t start and end in the bedroom. Get out all the things about yourself that aren’t sex related in this profile, and see what kind of women you can reel in without even trying.