When you decide to find a date with the help of one or several online dating sites, then you want results and you want them as soon as possible. Specifically, if you’re looking to getting some one night stands with the help of a dating site, sending thousand messages is a bit counter-productive.
A lot of people will tell you that they’re not superficial and don’t consider looks the most important factor when looking for someone. The harsh truth is: they’re, at least partially, lying. When faced with the choice of taking the time to read profile or email content and simply checking if the profile picture is likeable, everyone will stick to the latter option. Nobody wants to invest time in someone they aren’t in the least attracted to. This is why a good online dating profile photo is very often the ticket to success. If you keep the following in mind, you’re due to get lucky.
The Right Surroundings
By now, everyone has taken a jab at the classic bathroom selfie, so it’s pretty clear that unless you don’t want to be taken seriously, you should avoid this mistake. Although a bathroom mirror is practical, there’s nothing remotely attractive about your toilet seat. If you have a camera with a timer or a good friend who won’t poke fun at you for trying to get a nice picture of yourself, you can pretty much take a picture anywhere. In case you don’t want to have a picture that looks completely posed, grab your buddy, go swimming and take pictures there. Or when you don’t mind posing, pick a place where the surroundings are relatively neutral to make sure that you’re the main focus of the picture. This is why holiday pictures don’t always work well, even if you’re in your swimming gear. Things that happen in the background can be distracting. The visitors of your profile don’t want to see the Great Wall of China vanish in the distance while you’re a tiny speck in front. If you know how to work your camera, the best thing you can do is set it up in a way to blur items that are further away from the main focus point – you.
Lighting It up
The wrong lighting can make you look sickly or like the guy who wants to keep his date in his cellar forever – preferably in a cement dress. You don’t need a professional studio lighting rig. Desk and room lamps can be enough. You just need to know what you’re doing with them. To get a nice photo, most work with two light sources: a direct and an indirect one. The direct one aims at your face. Avoid lighting from the bottom – that’s the axe murderer lighting. The best position for direct lighting is from a side, slightly from above. Try out the angles to see what gives your face enough shadows to contour, but not too many to obscure you. The indirect lighting source is the general room light and doesn’t hit you directly. For both, stay away from lights that are of a more blueish color. Mix white with warm colors or just use warm ones, especially if you’re going for a color photo.